Many of us are familiar with the HR term, Open Door Policy but today we’ll talk about an Open Door Policy in relationships.
When you’re in a relationship or courtship with someone, you should be there because you want to be with the person but you also need to be 100% sure the person wants to be with you.
Sadly, many end up with people who don’t (exactly) want to be with them. The signs are always there, but they hardly noticed or simply ignored for one reason; they built a relationship with a Closed Door Policy in place.
Marriage is a life-long commitment and you have a whole life ahead of you. You’d agree with me that it’s of utmost importance to go into it with someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them.
This is almost impossible if you run your relationship with a Closed Door.
From the moment you begin to like a person, up through the point where there’s some seriousness about it, to the courting and even to the morning of your wedding it is important to run an Open Door Relationship.
An Open Door Policy-bound relationship is one that allows the exit of either party once they desire it to be so.
There are times in a relationship a person feels hemmed in, like they are being forced to go on, or left with no choice but to continue; no matter how far you’ve gone in a relationship, never let ‘how far you’ve gone’ be your reason for going on.
But I’m also talking to you today, who’s hemmed someone in and are doing everything to make them stay. You’ve showered all the gifts, you paid his rent, you’ve given your body or money, you’ve persuaded, convinced, your family had to beg at some point, your pastor had to plead at another, just to keep this person. You are in the wrong boat.
Every relationship should have an Open Door Policy. If they say they want to stay, that’s okay and if they don’t, be willing to let go.
How would you like to get married, only to be told the night of the wedding ‘I hope you’re happy now?’ That must have been a hemmed-in person who felt compelled to continue.
You deserve way more than that. All the happiness in the world was made for you; don’t helm anyone in. As long as you’re not yet married, leave the doors that lead into your relationship wide open. Let their remaining with you be a product of their personal conclusions and not results of the doors you closed in on them.
When you get married, then the closed door begins but this time, no one shut it on the other. Marriage should be two people who want to be together 100% holding the door handle and pulling it together to a permanent close.
Don’t draw that door to a permanent close with someone you’re not sure wants to be with you.
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