I saw a post that was asking a lady not to tell men she is in a serious relationship if the man she has, has not been to her Family for an official introduction; so that she doesn’t close the doors to a possible serious suitor.
Can we talk about this for a moment?
Even though it is the man that ‘finds a wife’, there is no law that says once someone claims to ‘have found’ you, they are the one.
You have a choosing to do as well. You don’t ‘find’ a husband, but God has given us a right to choose from among those that claim to ‘have found’. On what basis you make this choice is dependent solely on you. Just be sure to be guided by principles entrenched in God’s Word and His Holy Spirit.
That said,
The life of a Christian single lady is not a game of chance. In Christianity, we are led by the Spirit and He guides us in all things. Thus, we are not to process a gang of men through our lives so that “at least, I can go with the most serious one who is talking marriage” …
NO NO NO! There’s more to life and marriage than just finding a guy who is ‘talking marriage’.
First settle in your heart that the fact that a man is talking MARRIAGE, doesn’t make him the right man for you…it’s not automatic.
Also the fact that you’re involved with someone who doesn’t seem to be readily establishing some permanence between you both, doesn’t also mean he is the wrong person.
Many have lost the right man for them and followed the one that was TALKING MARRIAGE because they were looking at the wrong things.
That said,
A lady who’s in a relationship should be in that relationship only when she sees and perceives the man to align with the purposes of God for her life.
If you are in such a relationship, ensure you both have a clear definition of where this is headed then stay with the person and watch God perfect what He has started, embracing patience along the way.
If not, then don’t waste your time and their time, staying in that relationship. Close the doors that led into it, walk out, stay single and trust God to do it in His time.
You don’t need a ‘serious person’ to end a current relationship that’s hurting you.
_Benedicta Mbong.